by Silky

    Dear Sex Witch,

    I love my job and don’t want to leave it, but I need to make more money. I’m really afraid to ask my boss for a raise. Can you offer a spell to help me?

    Sincerely,

    Happy but poor in Portland, Oregon

    Dear HBP,

    I sense that not asking for what you want is a trend in your life? Particularly in the bedroom? If you can ask for what you want during sex, you can ask for anything, anywhere, anytime. Cast this spell well with the help of a trusted partner, and you’ll see magical results when you talk to your boss!

    Speaking Up Spell

    Ingredients:

    • Sexual partner willing to fulfill your every request
    • Dildo (harness optional), if your partner does not have a cock
    • Four white candles
    • Incense/sage

    Conduct this spell on a Wednesday under a waning moon, if possible.

    1. Walk in nature.

    Listen for birds singing and allow your body to feel the pleasure of hearing their song. Magic connects us to Earth and we are wise to consult and learn from her.

    Allow their song to be your inspiration for this spell.

    2. Prepare your space well.

    Light the four candles and place them in the north, south, east and west directions of the room.

    Light the incense or sage and hold it as you walk around the room three times, starting and ending in the east. Allow the incense to continue to burn near the east candle as the powers of the east represent air, voice, and communication.

    Imagine any fear or anxiety you have about speaking up becoming one with the smoke — rising and disappearing into the universe.

    3. Repeat this invocation out loud:

    “Here and now, I invoke the powers of the East,  guardians of the air, Goddess Iris, and majestic Mercury.

    Unleash the internal binds that prevent me from asking for what I want.

    Help me transmute my fear into pleasure so that my voice can become a powerful agent for change.

    Powers of the East, I call thee hence.”

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    4. Shift your attention to your partner and begin to direct them verbally on what you want them to do.

    Start small — where to sit, which articles of clothing to wear or remove, how you want them to touch you.

    5. Give them instructions to do things to you

    that they have done before, or that you have had done to you before that you enjoy.

    Practice being specific.

    Example requests: Lick my pussy slowly with your tongue flat and wide – or – tease my nipples with your teeth pulling them away from my breast slightly and let go allowing them to snap back.

    As your partner is fulfilling your requests, be present with the sensations in your body and think about how good it feels to make a request.

    Continue with requests for at least 20 minutes. Do not allow yourself to orgasm yet and request that your partner does not either.

    6. Request that your partner fuck your mouth.

    If your partner does not have a cock, they can use a dildo by holding it in their hand or wearing it in a harness.

    Your partner should channel all of their sexual energy into this phallus, so that you are receiving as much sex magic power from them as possible.

    Your job is to receive the cock, opening your mouth and throat to it. Think of it as a magic wand that is offering you the energy of decisiveness, directness, and strength.

    As you focus on this, allow the cock to penetrate your mouth and throat as deeply. If you gag, visualize blockages being released. Allow feelings of vulnerability, fear, or weakness come up and work to find pleasure in them.

    This is a vulnerable position to be in, and finding pleasure here will directly impact your ability to speak up for what you want.

    When no more feelings of vulnerability or fear are coming up (or when you feel complete), request your partner to stop.

    7. Use your super charged throat to make sexual requests that you’ve never asked for before,

    from this partner and ideally from anyone.

    Again, be specific. Example requests: Run your finger in circles around my asshole – or – film your cock penetrating my pussy.

    Be present with emotions that come up as you make these challenging requests. Feel those negative emotions in your body and stay with them until they disappear into the pleasure. Make at least three new requests.

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    8. Request how you would like to be brought to orgasm.

    As your body approaches the orgasmic peak, summarize the spell: “I will speak my desires. They will be heard. And they will come true.” Feel the spell disseminating out into the universe and running through your body as you orgasm.

    Consecrate the spell by allowing your body to fully express your orgasm through your voice — scream, moan, wail, CACKLE!

    9. Allow your body to rest.

    When you are ready, walk around the room (in the opposite direction) blowing out the candles as you go, ending in the East.

    Before blowing out the East candle, say aloud:

    “Powers of the East, guardians of the air, Goddess Iris, and majestic Mercury, thank you for your presence in this ritual today. Carry this spell on your winds. Powers of the East, I release thee.”

    10. Clap your hands three times and blow out the final candle.

     

    IN CONCLUSION

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    About the Author:

    silkySilky is an eclectic, ecosexual witch who studies pleasure and practices sex magic to create a more beautiful world. In addition to this “Ask a Sex Witch” column, she also writes and publishes eco-erotica. Ask the SEX WITCH for a spell of your own at ecoerotica@gmail.com.

     

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    • Show Comments (3)

    • JJ

      this column is so fantastic — thank you, Silky!

      • Silky

        My pleasure!

    • veronica rubygem

      i have a fantastic question about hoodoo these sensual love oils recipes but im sure if itll be answered.

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