They’ve learned to write True Love off as a “fairy tale idea”—without knowing that fairy tales are treasure troves of magical wisdom holding the keys to real-life miracles. 

They bury their childhood longings for a breathtaking romance—settling into the soft numbness of “realism” rather than feeling the overwhelming intensity of true yearning. 

They’ve read all the mainstream relationship advice and it all seems incredibly cliche and disempowering (and the few recommendations they tried were total disasters).

4 Myths that Absolutely Block You from Fairy Tale Magic & the Romance of Your Dreams

1. “Epic love only shows up in the sparkly beginning of a relationship. And after that, the best anyone can hope for is amiable companionship.”

No, no, no. Epic love is possible every day in relationship—it doesn’t need to fizzle out over time! In fact, true love can’t fizzle—we only pretend it does. “Fizzling” is really just another name for the bad habits and lame beliefs that allow us to assume love is temporary and limited. In truth, it takes a lot of hard work to pretend that love isn’t real and magic doesn’t exist—or that we could ever be satisfied with anything less.

Epic love isn’t for the sublimely lucky or the rare and blessed few—it’s the nature of reality itself, and the birthright of every human being. Magic is the wild, deep, scary-good intimacy with the infinite reality of love. Allowing yourself to love and be loved at this level is a terrifying and radical experience—but not at all an impossible one. 

2. “I should only have healthy, realistic desires when it comes to love.”

Most of us learn that settling, compromise, and “being realistic” are the keys to happiness. But when it comes to love, moderation leads to mediocrity. Being careful what we wish for doesn’t lead to better results, nor does settling for supposedly mature, evolved, or spiritual desires (things like “improved communication” or “better boundaries” or “learning to let go”) rather than what we really want—actual magic. Your shameless desire for epic romance? That’s your most priceless, and powerful treasure. 

3. “‘Talking it out’ is a necessary tool for a healthy relationship.”

Let’s be honest… you already know that “talking it out” mostly leads to just more blame and resentment.

(Also, it’s hard work, and boring.)

Rather than talking it out, it’s possible to use practical magic to transform tensions on the spot. No more lame, boring, endless analysis of why you’re not feeling wildly in love.

“Processing” is one of the most mind-numbing, magic-numbing drugs out there, and we’re going to get you off the stuff for good—and back into sexiness and strangeness and humor and love—the stuff that lets you feel really alive.

4. “Being deeply adored means giving up my independence.”

Well… actually, this one is sort of true.

If you’re going to open your heart to the profound ego-annihilation of being worshipped with the exquisite attention and love of a devoted partner, then you’ll have to let go of all shallow ideas of “independence” for the sake of “divinely interconnected bliss.”

1. You love your partner but don’t feel the sparkling “so in love” feeling like you did when you first got together, and you want that feeling back!

2. You’ve been working on your relationship for months and you’re exhausted… it feels like a never-ending job that you hate. You’re ready to fall back in love with your relationship by using only the most powerful, easy-to-follow, life-changing practices that are based on Western ceremonial magic, psychology & ancient feminine wisdom.

3. You’ve been dating someone for a few years & you want more… You’re starting to wonder if they’re really committed to you or if your relationship is just some way station for them.

4. You already KNOW where you’re stuck & what your patterns are… but you’re unsure how to unhook yourself from the compulsive reactions that are creating all the drama.

5. Your partner’s like your best friend. You never want to be without them – but you’re having a hard time connecting sexually & don’t know how to talk about it or fix it or if you have to settle for a lukewarm sex life.

6. You have no problem investing 30 minutes a day as long as you know that every bit of energy you invest is a powerful and meaningful step forward in making your relationship your Dream Come True.

7. In fact, you’re ALREADY investing time and energy doing things like couples therapy, talking it out, saying affirmations, journaling, expressing your needs, and other things you keep hearing you “need” to be doing.

Only problem is, you’ve experienced nothing but discouraging “why the heck do I even bother” results, followed by depressing overwhelm around what to do next.

8. You feel like you do everything and you’re so tired. You want your partner to take responsibility for something so you can stop feeling like you’re their mom nagging them to take out the goddamn trash every week.

9. You don’t mind having a bit of fun – and welcome the idea of reaching nondual enlightenment with a juicy love life.