by Tracy Moore
Many of us have seen the video about how “Harry Potter” would have been if it were written from the perspective of Hermione Granger spattered all over social media. If you haven’t, I encourage you to look it up.
The one line from the video which has stuck with me ever since I first saw it was when she introduced herself as the “girl who gives literally zero fucks”. What better description is there for being a bad witch?
Giving zero fucks is not the same as not caring about anything or anyone. It’s more about not caring about what other people think, and giving yourself permission to be at home in your own skin.
This mindset is so crucial to being in tune with who you really are and owning your power. Here are some of the roadblocks that I’ve encountered along the way, and how I’ve learned to get through them.
1. When you say the words “I can’t”, honestly ask yourself “why not?”.
As little children, we all believed at one point that anything was possible, and maybe more importantly that we could do anything.
After a while, the voices of doubt started to creep in…the ones that told us that we were silly to think that we could do certain things, or worse, that we weren’t good enough.
Part of growing into your own power is being able to regain that belief in yourself and the confidence to know that you are good enough.
If the only answer to why you can’t do something is the fear that someone will reject you or that you won’t succeed, that is the voice of bullshit talking.
For most things in life, it is much more realistic for us to say that we can’t do something right now than that we can’t do it at all.
If it’s something that you really want to do, figure out how to set things in motion to make it happen instead of telling yourself that you can’t.
Over time your desire to undertake certain things will change, which is part of life. Constantly telling yourself that you can’t do things however, is robbing yourself of success and happiness.
2. Talking to yourself in ways which you would never allow someone to speak to a loved one.
Do you find yourself engaging in the practice of negative self talk? As we are growing into a blissful state of badness, many of us question our sanity or tell ourselves that we are not normal (like that is an awful thing).
When feeling the way back to ourselves through the darkness, many bad-ass, awesome people beat themselves up for not being like other people.
I’ve heard amazing women and men refer to themselves as freaks, weirdos, nut jobs, and worse for not being able to fit into the mold which our society tells us is acceptable.
Your inability to conform to the standards of so called normalcy is the very thing that makes you fabulous.
If you find yourself being nasty to yourself…stop, sit down, and write down the thing which has caused you to have that thought. Once you’ve written that down, ask yourself what you love about that very same thing.
Keep in mind that your answers do not have to make sense to anyone but you.
You might be surprised to find that when you are honest about those same qualities which you were finding undesirable, that you actually find more good to say about them than you thought.
After a while, it becomes clear that most of our negative self thoughts are the products of insults or messages which have been hurled at us by people or a society that we have no desire to mimic anyway.
3. Do you laugh at the little “jokes” or snide comments that people make about you?
As non-mainstream people, we tend to be the butt of a lot of jokes and comments.
When someone asks a banker what they do for a living, how many times do you think they hear things like, “Oh, so you sit around counting pieces of paper which determine whether or not someone is worthy of having a meal today”?
No, I am not a money hater. I actually like it.
The point of my example was to show how differently people react to more traditional folks. Let’s look at an example from my own life to demonstrate how different it often is. Keep in mind, this was years ago.
Guy at a coffee shop: What do you do?
Me: I’m a writer, card reader, psychic who sometimes talks to spirits, and artist.
Guy: OooH so can you give me the winning lottery numbers? (said with a snort)
Me: Haha…that’s a good one, but no it doesn’t quite work that way.
Guy: Well, I don’t believe in that kind of nonsense.
Me: Okay, I understand.
I’ve since had similar encounters, and let me tell you, my responses are a lot different.
For one thing, I no longer sit by quietly while someone pokes fun nor do I join them in laughing at myself.
When people ask inane questions like the guy in the example above, I now feel free to let them know that the Universe has things a little more pressing to focus on than providing one guy with winning lottery numbers, but that it does offer guidance as to what he could be doing to bring more fortune into his life.
While it doesn’t make me more popular with naysayers, it has made me feel like something more than a carnival act.
It has been an arduous journey at times, but each step toward being a girl who gives literally zero fucks has been well worth it.
Next time you find that you are being hard on yourself or doubting your paths, gifts, and strengths take some time to ask why you are feeling that way.
If you see that it is because you have some work to do in order to make yourself happier, by all means do so.
However, if it is due to negative influences by outside influences, give yourself permission to shrug it off and keep going forward in doing what you love.
Remember, this is your life to live. Make the most of it.
About the Author
You can check out her website, Pull Up A Toadstool, where she posts a little bit of everything; ranging from short articles encouraging people to tap into their personal power, mini-workshops on subjects such as meditation and crystals, poetry, fiction, some of her artwork, and information on getting a reading or intuitive services. You can also join her Facebook group and like her page to engage in conversation, get the card of the day, and meet new people.
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