by Demelza Hillier

    Mermaids have a bit of a happy-go-fluffy new-age rep these days. Doreen Virtue has had her hands on them, and now they are like angels of the sea, here to help humanity evolve into greater, more lovely beings, to have fulfilling romantic relationships, all that jazz.

    That’s a nice idea.

    But by only focusing on the good, we are ignoring something important.

    My take on mermaids is a little different. I think of mermaids more like a wild, watery archetypal force. They are a facet of the untamed Divine Feminine, and their stories are full of darkness, sorrow and bloodthirstiness.

    Through the centuries we have tales of mermaids representing the wild danger of the natural world

    – mermaids who drown sailors in stormy oceans, and lure ships towards pointed rocks with their seductive singing.

    These mermaids are the true embodiment of the oceans they lived in – the stormy Atlantic, the unforgiving North Sea.

    We have stories of inland mermaids, who lurk in forest pools waiting for a man to drown.

    We have stories of scorned mermaids exacting punishing revenge on men who wronged or hurt them, often with scenarios where they drown a whole village or wage war against them.

    We have stories of mermaids trapped, imprisoned, or otherwise crippled for love – being punished for choosing their own lover, or punishing themselves in order to be worthy enough of a man’s love.

    In fact, we have tons of stories about mermaids being cruel, capricious or untrustworthy – and tons more where mermaids are on the end of a horrible situation that just sucks for them.

    image source: Painting by Knut Ekwall

    Why is this?

    How can a mythological being with such a dark murdery past be so powerful in the new age today?

    How can we spiritually work with such dark, devious beings?

    Well, most mermaid stories actually mirror the patriarchal attitude to women of the time in which they were written.

    Write a mermaid story in the 13th century, when catholic repression is all the rage, you get a story of a ravenous Daughter of Eve, whose purpose is to corrupt all christendom with her sinful nature and her lusty cleavage.

    Write a mermaid story in the 19th century, you get a story where the mermaid is just dying to be purged of her sinful nature and be purified… through the love of a man, of course.

    The history of patriarchy has been about the control of women, because if you control the people who propagate the human race, you control humanity. If you control the beings with the power of life, you control life itself.

    So many mermaid stories are about frustration with women that the patriarchy can’t control – and how horrible and dangerous out of control women are.

    They take core feminine traits – like flexibility, intuition, love, sexuality – and through mermaid stories show them as something terrifying and dangerous to men. (I can’t actually think of many mermaid stories where the mermaids are punishing women at all. Can you?)

    So we get these delicious, bloodthirsty, insatiable watery succubi who are capricious as the sea and want nothing more than to drown a man in her watery world of sex and feeling.

    I love it when stories are all dark and messed up like this. It means there is something powerful there someone is trying to hide – some shadowy truth someone is scared of.

    image source: Painting by Gustav Wertheimer

    It’s a clue.

    Mermaid stories portray the power of women, the seductive power women have over men, and how terrified the men are of it. In a society where women’s sexuality was to be tightly controlled, the idea of a free, sexually liberated, independent woman was too much.

    They had to demonise her.

    She became a symbol for why powerful women were evil and dangerous….

    … and at the same time, looking back, a symbol of feminist uprising against an unfair and outrageously repressive regime.

    That’s why I love mermaids.

    It’s not about the love-and-light.

    Their stories, their connections with the ocean are too real, too visceral, too dangerously powerful for them to just be love and light.

    I don’t believe that you can just say “Oh it’s just slander! None of it is true!” about this kind of stuff either. There are hundreds of stories of mermaids that tell of their sexy danger.

    Why would we ignore that – just so we can create a fabricated, unattainable image of female spiritual perfection in our minds?

    (…and how exactly has that helped us in any other area of our lives?)


    This darkness is a part of them.

    This dangerous reclaiming of power is all of them.

    They were the woman aligned with the feminine powers of water, of the tides, of love and emotion, who refused to let anyone take their power – who laughed at those who tried, and drowned them anyway.

    Resistance in the face of insidious control.

    And yeah, it got a bit dark and messed up – but the world is dark and messed up, and since we are dealing with elemental beings – beings who by their very nature are tied to the physicality of this world – it makes sense that mermaids would be beings of shadow and light, rather than of holy untainted perfection.

    Being a powerful, sexual female being in the mythological world of the last 2000 years would make you a devilish she-beast.

    So mermaids/watery female natures were demonised through story, their natural feminine traits declared too dangerous and too sexy for the common good, and the idea of women needing to be controlled because they are too messed up not to be was enmeshed in the mythology of western culture…

    … and because we all learn through stories, I am sure it helped out with the whole misogynist propaganda thing as well.

    Mermaid stories are dark and disturbing because they reflect the dark and disturbing beliefs of the storytellers of the time – and we can’t just erase out what that means for the Mermaids.

    Why would we? If we erase out all the stories about fear of female power, we erase out the intense potency of that power that had everyone terrified.

    This is why it’s important to take the dark and dirty stories about female figures in mythology seriously – because underneath them is the raw feminine power everyone was desperately trying (and usually failing) to control.


    About the Author:

    Demelza Hillier is a Mermaid Priestess, an Artist, a Dancer, a Professional Mermaid and a lover of peanut butter. She teaches peeps about Goddess, writes fab e-courses about rocking out your bad-ass mermaid spirit, and teaches dance internationally. Additionally she loves playing the Ukulele, expensive breakfast cereal, all the animals and… Gary Oldman as Dracula. Sssssh. You can learn more about her work and get mo’ mermaid freebies at her website Rockstar Priestess, pop on over and say Hi on Facebook or join our mermaid coven at the Mermaid Sisterhood.


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    • Show Comments (2)


      One thing that has changed the image of mermaids is Disney’s Little Mermaid, released in 1989. Ariel, the mermaid, is not evil. She just wants to go on land and be with her prince, which she gets to do in the end. Disney even made a direct to video sequel where Ariel has a daughter. Now, mermaids are popular with kids. There is a whole industry where women will dress up as mermaids and entertain at parties, generally kids’ birthday parties. Some of the mermaids have bright red hair, just like Ariel. You can buy your own mermaid tail to swim in, in both adult and kids’ sizes. Ariel is one od the Disney princesses, just like Snow White and Cinderella. This is a far cry from the darkness described in the article.

    • Thomas

      Great post! Have nice day ! :) pusei

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